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What to do When You Just Can’t Manifest What You Really Want?
Sometimes the best way to figure out what we’re doing ‘wrong’ is to stop, evaluate and start over with a better plan!
First, let’s Stop and Remember – How Exactly Do We Apply the Law of Attraction?
In reality there are only three steps:
1) Ask for what you want.
2) Allow it to happen.
3) Take action in the direction of your dreams.
It’s simply, right?! But, simple does not always translate to easy!
Even at the first step (Ask for What You Want), MANY conscious creators make a critical mistake.
- Asking in desperation = “I really, desperately need more money. Universe, I beg you, please help me manifest it!” – A vibration of lack cannot manifest.
- Unfocused or lackluster request = “I want more money.” A small vibration of desire is usually not enough to offset a lifetime of lacking vibrations.
- Inconsistency = “I said my affirmations twice this month… why isn’t it manifesting.” Really? We want to create a whirlwind love based on a few minutes of affirmations?! Really? We want the big U to eliminate all our financial worries after we’ve done a 30 minute meditation on ‘success’?!
Below, I will share what usually happens and what you want to do instead so that you can see where your efforts may fall short. However, I also want to draw your attention to the Mind-Movies webinar this week that is also a GREAT resource for eliminating ALL of the above critical mistakes in a VERY systematic manner.So…… here’s what usually happens:
| What we usually do - that postpones the fulfillment of our goals: | What we would prefer to do - that actualizes the fulfillment of our goals: |
| 1) We ask for what we want. | 1) We ask for what we want. |
| 2) We try to allow 'it' to happen. However, we just aren't clear how 'allowing it' really feels especially when it's critically urgent or important. | 2) We allow 'it' to happen with positive, unwavering faith and expectation while taking inspired action. |
| 3) We review what is and judge it as wrong, incomplete, or not what we are wanting. | 3) We review what is and choose to embrace the current reality as Divinely Ordered and Divinely Perfect. We choose to find those things that bring us joy and expand our experience of love. |
| 4) We again ask for what we want, only this time we are slightly more aware of the sense of worry, fear, or doubt that is creeping in due to the lack of proof that what we want is actually going to materialize. Sometimes, we can feel momentarily realigned because we have chosen to do our work (affirmations, visualizations, EFT etc.) | 4) We again ask for what we want and this time we choose to raise our level of clarity, certainty and faith even further (through mind-movies, positive affirmations, visualizations, meditation, treasure-mapping, EFT, mind-entrainment, the 72 Names of God, etc.) We re-affirm our intention with deep, profound conviction. |
| 5) Sometimes we are bold enough or forced to take physical action but often we are 'stuck' and want more proof of success before we are willing to take action. This causes more frustration, apathy, fear, pride, and even sense of rebellion. | 5) We take bold, inspired physical action in the direction of our dreams. We are persistent, patient, faithful and committed. We take courageous steps everyday in spite of a lack of evidence and we move forward even in the face of uncertainty. We seek out joy, love, beauty, and wholeness as a daily experience. |
| 6) We want to trust that all is well but we can't seem to get rid of the mental rumblings, "I'm not good enough", or "maybe the "Secret" law of attraction is bogus". | 6) We choose to trust that all is well. When a negative thought comes up, we gently surrender it by intentionally choosing to embrace and remember our unlimitedness. |
| 7) We look at reality and notice what's missing. We dismiss what's 'good' as not good enough and focus our attention on what is wrong, bad, or how the lack of our desire just proves we are ... worthless, deficient, incapable... or whatever other foul thoughts we can berate ourselves with. | 7) We look at reality; we notice what's congruent and incongruent. "Hmmm... isn't this interesting...." We give thanks for both. We refocus on our dream, redirect our thoughts, and actively pursue love and joy. |
| 8) We want to realign our thoughts and use the law of attraction. However, we feel frustrated and are compelled to be more 'realistic'. We prepare for 'not having what we want.' | 8) We choose to consciously re-adjust our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors according to greater congruency and alignment with our goals. We feel inspired to prepare to receive what we've ordered. |
| 9) We choose to say, "It's all good" but we feel, "it's not all good." | 9) We choose to say and feel, "It's all good - all the time." |
| 10) We ask again for what we want. However, we are even more resistant to 'failing' and we give the Universe one last chance to give us what we want. | 10) We choose to be willing to succeed and willing to fail! "I am willing to succeed and I am willing to fail!" We reaffirm our intention to experience what we want with pure faith, gratitude and conviction. We embrace ..."the Faith of a Mustard Seed." |
| 11) We give up. We let it go and assume that what we want isn't going to happen. | 11) We let it go. We hand it over. We turn it over to the Divine. Then, we prepare to receive our good and take an active role in finding more joyful and loving experiences. |
| 12) ** If we have really given up and are focusing on the things that bring us joy, we will see either the materialization of what we want or at the very least signs of land. **If we gave it up but underneath feel negative --sad, apathetic, or disappointed, we will continue to experience signs of land but fail to recognize them as anything other than 'driftwood.' | 12) We repeat the above process with every new idea and with greater clarity. We realize that we are so grateful that the Divine Order reigns supreme as we wouldn't want it any other way. Now, with more understanding about what we really want, and how all that we desire is already melding together, we continue to refine, define, clarify, adjust, give thanks, take action, and prepare to receive. |
Our work is to be willing to constantly but gently, continue to readjust and get back on the faithful track Of ASKING and EXPECTING to RECIEVE while also knowing that 'all is well' and 'I am indeed a fabulous creator.'
As you can see from the two columns above, there's a rhythm to conscious creation:
First we ask for what we want, then we accept, love, and allow what is, while seeking more joy and love through inspired action. Then, we repeat by asking/expecting/commanding what we want with greater clarity and the process continues... indefinitely.
Now, what happens when we just cannot let go of our attachment? No matter how much faith we want to feel, what do we do if we just cannot get over the FEAR that we may never have our desires fulfilled?!
--In a word --> Surrender!
When we've already jumped overboard without a life preserver, the first order of business is to surrender to the sea! This does not mean we give up and stop swimming but it does mean that we accept the fact that we must deal with the issue at hand. Fighting the water destroys the precious energy that we need to survive.
Accept what is as Divinely Perfect as it's too late now to wish it were different. The only thing left to do is allow it to be. When you surRender to what is as all part of the Divine Plan you render it powerless over you. By accepting the Divine Order in any situation, you stop giving the negative aspects of the problem your attention and neutralize the impact of unhelpful reactions.
SurRendering feels positive, hopeful, and peaceful. It does not feel fearful, doubtful, sad, or apathetic. If you think you've surRendered but continue to feel disconnected, then you are still fighting the water and wasting precious energy.
Once you've stopped the energy leakage by accepting Divine Order, you will feel a sense of courageous peace. Your mottos become "I can handle this", "this too shall pass", and "bring it on!"
It's not over - your unlimited potential to be a powerful, directed, intentional and successful creator is your birthright and you can begin again, today accepting this Truth. Your work is to learn from what is, trust that all is well and continue to redirect your intentions. Take a deep breath and start swimming with conviction and you'll not only get through this but you'll find that the outcome was absolutely part of the Divine Plan for your life.
I look forward to hearing of your success!
Courtesy : Anisa Aven
